Grief isn’t easy – no matter what is left on your plate during the process. A job, household responsibilities, being a wife, being a mom. Sometimes just breathing is hard. I have been in all of those places this week. Yet, one thing I have never experienced before was homeschooling through grief. It is hard – but I am here to encourage you. It can be done.
We took the weekend to grieve, but I process better when things are “normal.” Yes, it is a new normal. My mind now knows what it once did not. However, I know as a Mama, the best thing I can do for my little one is to allow some of the normal routine to come back. As a homeschool mama, I know we have time we can take – but that we are near the end of our calendar year, and I don’t want my grief to cloud her education. It is good for both of us to focus on something else.
Yet, there my little one sits, quietly doing her science journal. Here I sit, chocking back tears.
How do you homeschool through your grief?
4 Tips to Homeschooling Through Grief
Here are four things I have already found helpful in homeschooling through grief:
- Start Slow- Yes, I am encouraging you to homeschool. Yet, I am also reminding you to start slow. For me, this was sleeping in a bit- because I had spent nights up crying. Start with your (or your child’s) favorite subject- there will be less tears and grumbling about getting moving again. Don’t do every subject- pick a few things and start there. You can always add more as you are ready.
- Take Breaks- Don’t feel like you have to follow every part of your schedule. Take breaks. Go for a walk, color, or watch an educational video. Don’t feel like you have to be engaged with paper and pencil – there are other ways to learn.
- Get out of the house- Use this time to go and get away from the place where you are doing the majority of grieving. Go to the zoo, the park, a museum. Let someone else do some of the educating, make memories with your child, and call it a day.
- Give yourself lots of Grace- Grace, Mama. We need lots of it. Every day – even when we are not grieving. Why should this time period be any different. Give yourself grace. If you start the homeschool day, but can’t finish it – that is okay. If you are short tempered- leave the books. If you need to just go to the bathroom and cry – go ahead and feel.
You can keep homeschooling even though you are grieving. You can add days to your homeschool year (remember, most states allow you to choose a year round option – which gives you times to take breaks as needed) or you can cut projects and do them when you are ready. There is no cookie cutter way to homeschool right- grief or not.
You’ve got this Mama. Breath and grieve.
Worshiping With My Life,