How do you handle the holidays when you don’t feel merry. Everywhere you go, there are lights blinking, happy songs, giving presents and sharing with others. Things that should make one feel merry. What do you do during Christmas when you just don’t feel merry?
I have really struggled this year getting into the Christmas spirit. I started the season preparing my heart – I wanted to be open to whatever the Lord had to show me during this season of Christmas – the season we anticipate the birth of Christ.
Yet, I have found myself more agitated, less patient, and really, just counting down the days till life resumes to it’s normal routine.
I don’t feel merry.
I tried to figure out the source of my struggle – and could not come up with one reason why I wouldn’t be merry this Christmas. So, I decided to look at what the Bible says about being merry.
Proverbs 15:13 | A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.
Proverbs 15:15 |All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast.
Proverbs 17:22 |A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.
Looking up the verses at first didn’t really hep me. I saw that having a merry heart would help me have a cheerful countenance – well, I knew the opposite was true. I was walking around like a broken spirit. I wasn’t living like I was in a feast- more like a famine! I felt dry on the inside.
The verses helped me understand what I was feeling- but not as much how to fix it.
But then I looked deeper.
Here is where my problem lied. Even though I was having quiet time – even though I thought I was preparing myself for Christmas- I wasn’t really seeking. I was obeying out of duty – but not out of desire. I was seeking to fill my days and hours with more study, instead of doing what the Lord had told me to do. Instead of being faithful in my little- I was trying to be faithful in much.
I am not feeling merry because I am not seeking it. My reason for preparing my heart was the perfect Christmas – but instead, all I was doing was making myself more busy.
I wasn’t really slowing down and seeking His face. I was doing much without respect.
Tonight, I heard the sweetest Christmas program about Jesus being our “bestest friend”. I realized that I was not placing Him in that spot. I was adding Him on. Adding Him onto my Christmas. When He is Christmas. I wasn’t planning on celebrating the birth of my bestest friend. I was losing focus– focusing on a perfect Christmas instead of the perfect Christmas.
You can’t add Christ to Christmas. You can’t take Christ out of Christmas. Christ is Christmas.
So, if you have lost your merry – take a time out. That’s right. Place yourself in time out. Get alone, just you and the Lord. Regain your focus – and leave the merry to God. It will be His gift to you!
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