Sanctification. The process in which Christians become more like Christ. It is a life long process- and it doesn’t come easy. I have found that God has used many things in my sanctification process- my wait for a spouse, my marriage, my parenting. Yet, lately the thing He has been using the most is our adoption process.
Adoption isn’t easy. God knows that- because He came on a rescue mission to adopt us into His family. The process isn’t lost on Him. It is very similar to our salvation experience:
- The Parent decides to adopt – In adoption, the first part of the process usually is the adoptive family deciding that adoption is the road they are going to walk down. This comes through hard decisions- often time, it comes through infertility, or it might come from a deep passion to see kids in loving families. God also made a decision to adopt. You see, back in Genesis- at the very beginning of time- God saw humanity, and knew that He wanted us for His own. We were created to be with Him, we were created to be in family. So, God decided, in His sovereignty, that He would adopt us into His family. You see, there are only two families in the world – God’s and Satan’s. If you have not surrendered your life to God, you belong to the your Father the Devil. The biggest difference in adoption on earth and God’s adoption is that the first father isn’t a good father, and he does not want to see his children be adopted.
- Waiting on a Call – In adoption, we are always waiting on a call. The call from our agency that we have been matched. The call that will change our lives. Even now, I see my phone sitting beside me, and I am begging for it to ring. To tell me that there is a baby out there for us. Our Adoption with God is different. This time, the adoptive Father is putting out the call, waiting for the child to respond.
- The Waiting- Yes, God knows all about waiting for children to come home. Often through our process I have thought that God did not know what I was going through – and He reminded me through His Word that yes, he in deed does know the pain of waiting for children to come home. And – he even knows the pain of losing one you thought would be yours. God knows.
So, how has my adoption process helped sanctify me? Here are ___ ways that it has made me more like Christ (and I am still a work in progress!)
- It has taught me faith and prayer – Each day, before I get out of bed, I lay there and pray. I pray that today is the day that the phone will ring and the call will come. Each day, before my feet hit the floor, I decide that I am going to walk in faith and believe that today will be the day. I continue to prepare my home in small ways. I buy an outfit here or there. I tide up the nursery. I repack the hospital bag. I pray for the little one– and for their sweet birth mama. Our adoption has increased my faith.
- It has taught me to trust- Trust doesn’t come natural to me. I don’t share often, but I have hurts that have happened in my past that often make me struggle with trusting others. At times, it has even effected my trust in the Lord. Yet there is not one thing I can do to make this adoption move quicker. There isn’t one thing I can do to make a birth mom choose us. There isn’t one thing I can do to make sure she sticks with her decision to adopt. I have had to trust.
- It has taught me how to deal with pain- I have shared that back in February 2015 we were matched with a baby girl. Oh, how my heart was delighted. However, at the end of March- just 6 weeks later – we found out our birth mom had decided to parent. Oh, I was happy for her – our birth mom was a great girl, and I hoped the best for her small family. That doesn’t change the pain I felt. in adoption – you have to let go. You have to risk the pain. The loss.
- It has taught me to cling to God’s Word and promises – There is no greater comfort in the world than God’s Word. I have held my Bible and cried more tears and let the Word wash over me like never before.
- It has taught me to worship- Worship doesn’t always come from a place of joy- sometimes, it comes from our places of pain, the places where we have truly had to surrender. God has used this adoption process to truly teach me about worship -and that it isn’t always joy, sometimes it is a sacrifice.
Oh sweet sister – if you are in the adoption process – know that God is using this time for your good. It might be hard now, but the fruit is eternal.
Now, on to our link up:
The most clicked link from last week’s link up was – A Bountiful Love’s giveaway for an NIV Teen Study Bible for Girls!
I always like to feature a favorite of mine- and so this week it was, The Crazy Organized Blog with 10 Things Organized People Do Regularly! These are some things I need to take into practice!