We are not going on vacation this year. Last year, we were fortunate to go on several trips (thanks to my wonderful in-loves). This year, we knew we needed to stay home. Our July was packed with visitors, and June was filled with VBS and teen camp. Since we are not going on a trip – we are doing stay-cation ideas. Last weekend, we took our kids to the local drive in and saw Inside Out
The movie is a good one. At the very beginning, you meet Riley – and she is a newborn baby. We then head into Riley’s brain, and we meet Joy, her first feeling. Joy is introduced when Riley meets her parents for the first time. Joy is quickly joined by Anger as Riley is either hungry or tired.
The movie continues forward and we are also introduced to Disgust, Fear and Sadness.
In trying not to give to much of the movie away, Joy is in charge of Riley’s headquarters. She tries to keep the other emotions in check, wanting Riley to have a joy filled life. However, as the movie progresses, we see the need for Sadness. Joy is especially leery of Sadness.
Keeping Our Kids From Sadness
As a mom, I thought about that. How often as parents do we not want our kids to feel sadness. I think that would be most of us. We have become a culture that will do anything to keep our kids from being sad. Buy them that toy, give in to their wants and desires. We go beyond meeting their needs to fulfilling their flesh. We are driving thier sin nature.
Maybe it is because we didn’t have much as kids. Maybe we don’t want to “lose” our kids- if they are unhappy with us, when they are grown, they will leave us and never speak to us. However, we are losing our kids by taking away the importance of sadness in their lives.
The Importance of Sadness
Sadness is important. It teaches us that we can get through hard things. That no pain last forever. Sadness helps us to grieve when we have lost something. It is okay to be sad. It is okay for our kids to be sad.
If we never tell our kids no – if they never hear it from us- they won’t know how to deal with sadness (which might lead to anger). They will hear no in this world. They won’t have everything they ever want (more then likely). they need to know how to process this feeling.
My kids have known sadness. *sigh* Far too much sadness for this Mama’s heart. They lost their biological Mama very young in life. They have lost grandparents, aunts and uncles. They are young- and they have already had more lost then most adults. Yet, sadness has helped them. God has turned that sadness into gladness. He has shown them that His strength is perfect – even when ours is gone.
They have come to know Him because they know this world is not their home- and they know that because of sadness.
Sadness Points to Jesus
Yes, sadness points us to Jesus. How? When we are sad – we have a choice to choose Joy in spite of the other emotions going on inside of us.
The only thing I did not like about the movie was that there was no happiness or love. Those emotions are different from joy. I guess they thought that might be hard to explain to children – but we found it important for discussion in our home.
Just because you are not sad does not mean you have joy. Joy is only found in Jesus Christ. Happiness can be found in circumstances and other relationships. True joy goes beyond those things. Joy can be had even if sadness happens.
When we are sad, and it happens and is okay, we need to remember the source of our joy. That source is Jesus Christ. Sadness is needed- but one day, it will be gone. For good.
Worshiping God With My Life,