Three years ago, I sat in a house surrounded by things. The things were not mine- but I did not know what to do with them. I sat with counters full of pots and pans. The towel closet was already put together – a medicine cabinet in place. Yet, I was on the verge of becoming a wife – and a mother- but I was surrounded by the building of another wise woman. My husbands first wife had passed away, and I was suppose to continue to build on to the home that she had. Yet, I learned quickly – I could either build or destroy that home.
I really thought I was just picking up where she left off. I was so naive. Each marriage begins a home. The foundation is hopefully Jesus Christ. The day we got married, we had a fully built home. Full of all the things needed. We even got some new things! However, we were reestablishing our house – yet not pulling down what was built before. A special balance – but doable.
As women, Proverbs tells us that we build our homes. Wise women will build- and foolish will tear down. Proverbs 11-15 is full of short bites of wisdom. Speak with wisdom – and not as fools who gossip and don’t guard their tongue. To not be lazy. To discipline our children. To walk in righteousness.
How can we be sure to build our house and not tear it down?
- Walk in Righteousness– Often in the book of Proverbs, we see that the path of righteousness leads to life. The opposite is leading to death. How can we walk in righteousness? By obeying the Word of God! God’s Word is a standard that we can live by. It isn’t just a book written by men – it is the inspired Word of God.
- Guard Your Tongue- The book of Proverbs is also filled with truth about our tongue. What we should and, more importantly, should not, say. This is a big one in our homes. We need to be sure we are using our words to build or edify those around us. That starts with our families. The people that live in our house. We are teaching our children how to speak by how they hear us speak of others. Do we lie? Gossip? Speak things that are unkind? If these are the kinds of things that our children hearing us say (and trust me, they are listening!) – it will be the ways that your kids speak.
- Discipline – Often in the book of Proverbs, we hear that a wise son will hear instruction. We also see that we need to be diligent in discipline. Confession. I haven’t been consistent lately. When we become inconsistent with our discipline, the behaviors get out of hand – and the work that it takes to get our house back in control is all uphill. We need to be consistent.
- Diligence – Really, it all boils down to diligence. Are we going to be lazy or not? In every area of our life -we need to be diligent. If we find ourselves becoming slack – we need to get back in the fight.
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