I am so excited to have my friend Misty from Joy in the Journey with us today! Misty and I met at the Allume Blogging conference – and we were kindred spirits right away!I I know you will enjoy this post from her!
I remember when I was pregnant with my first, everywhere I went people always wanted to give me advice. You know the type of advice I’m talking about. Things like “You have no idea what you’re getting into”, or “Oh, there’s nothing like having a little one” and “You’ll forget the pain as soon as your holding that little one in your arms”. Everyone means well, and now that I’m a mom I find myself giving the same bits of advice to moms to be.
However, there are a few things about being a mom, or really a parent, that are absolute truths. There things that no one really tells you, or if they do, you don’t believe them. Those things “won’t” happen to you, or your kids will be different. I know-I said the same thing!
Here are 10 parenting truths that I didn’t believe!
- You will get used to little fingers or eyes peeking in at you under the bathroom door. I got by easy with my first 2, they never did this. But my 3rd bangs on the door….constantly!
- Going to the grocery store alone will feel like a vacation. I run when I get this opportunity….
- Date night becomes pizza and ice cream after the kids are in bed, on the rare occasion you get a “real” date night; you will most likely end up at the grocery store at some point. I remember babysitting for my aunt and uncle right after I got married. When they got home they said they went to taco bell and Wal-Mart. I laughed. And said that would NEVER be me. Our last date night consisted of DQ and Kroger’s…..
- Each kid is different, and with each child you feel like you are learning all over again. My first girl was super easy, 2nd girl was colicky, 3rd was a boy….Each time I felt like I had NO clue what I was doing. To a certain extent, each child is easier, but really each child has different needs and you have to learn what they want.
- When your child hurts, you will hurt. I mean really hurt. My middle had a pretty serious illness when she was 11 months. I remember laying in the hallway at the hospital crying and praying, I couldn’t help her. She was in pain, and as a mom I felt like a failure. When you can’t “fix” them and make it better, it hurts.
- Your relationship with your spouse will change. This isn’t really a bad thing. I look at my husband differently now. Our marriage is stronger, and I love seeing him in the role of dad.
- You will understand your parents more and you will have a whole new appreciation for the sacrifices they made for you. I look back now, and realize the things my mom did without. As a kid you don’t see it, but as a mom you see them in a whole new light.
- Those annoying statements (“because I said so, that’s why!”) your mom or dad made-you will say them too! I called my mom the first time I said those words. She laughed at me…I deserved it!
- Vacations become a lot more like work when there are kids involved! Have you ever heard the statement “I need a vacation, from my vacation”? That is life with kids!
- All those things you thought you wanted, or the things you just had to have, become not so important in the grand scheme of things. When my husband and I got married, we had big dreams. Over the years, those dreams have changed. Your dreams merge with the dreams of your family. Reality sets in, and “things” don’t seem as important.
What is one thing you wish you would’ve known or believed about becoming a parent?
Misty Bailey is a Christian wife and homeschool mom. She resides with her family in Southern Ohio. She loves helping new homeschoolers and has a Homeschool 101 eBook for those getting started. She shares her struggles with time management, becoming unglued and finding joy in the everyday moments on her blog Joy in the Journey.