Growing up I was raised primarily by my grandmother. She was and still is a strong spiritual influence of mine. Early on in my life she taught me the firm Biblical truths about how girls and women were suppose to dress and act. It was because of that I always said that if I ever had a daughter she would also learn the same truths. Fast forward far to many years to mention I am a mom of 3 boys and 1 little girl. I am finding more than ever how important those truths that my grandmother taught me early on are important.
I was taught early on that my body was a temple for God. The way that I adorned it was meant to please Him. It was for that reason I needed to make sure that the way I acted and dressed would in fact be blessing to not only God but to myself.
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
The way that we dress and the way that we act reflect to those in the outside world who we are. We can choose to be like the world and view our bodies as ours and ours alone. Or we can choose to follow Biblical teachings and let the world know that we in fact belong to God. I choose to show others that I follow Christ in all I do. Therefore I am very careful about what it is that I wear and also my actions.
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1 Peter 3:3-4
Others around us are not meant to see us because of what we adorn our body’s with. Instead they should see us because of who we are on the inside. Now this is not saying that we should never wear nice things or dress up. What it is saying is that when people observe us it should be because of our spirit. It should be because we are humble, loving and meek. Not because of the clothing that we wear.
These are the truths that I want my daughter to know.
This is what I choose to teach her now while she is still little.
In order for me to achieve this I am putting in place things that were done for me. I am teaching her why certain clothing choices are not acceptable. Even if others think it would be “cute”. That so called cute won’t be so cute when she is a teenage and turning heads of boys with raging hormones. I am teaching her that her body is God’s temple and should be adorned as such. I am teaching her modest both in the way that she dressed and how she acts. ( I should note here that we are also teaching our boys to be modest in how they dress and act as well. )
The way that she dresses and acts will:
Ultimately set her apart from the world.
Attract a future husband with like minded principles.
Allow her to show the world that she is a child of God without saying a word.
Help her realize there is more to a person than just the clothes that they wear.
Help her to make Godly first impressions and not leave people to question what she believe in.
My husband and I have chose to have our daughter wow the world because of her principles and because of her personality. To us this means a lot more that her being recognized first with impure thoughts that come to those who dress more provocatively. It also means that we must also must teach her to do the same for herself.
In order to do this I must
Teach her the Biblical truths about modesty.
I must remind her of her self worth everyday.
Remind her of the God that she serves.
Pray for guidance to lead her properly.
I would love to know some ways that you are promoting a modest lifestyle to your daughter. Feel free to leave some of your ideas in the comment section below.