We are on week two of the Making Your Home a Haven Challenge! Last week, we lit a candle and prayed for peace in our home. As we prayed for peace, we learned how when we have peace, patience is easier. When peace controls our hearts- it will ooze out into our homes as well. This week, we are going to keep that candle lit… but we are going to add a little music to our worlds too. As we hear this music, we are going to work on gentleness – and see how Self-Control plays a big part in us being gentle! Make sure you go to the end of this post to see the playlist I have created for you!
We have to have control of our homes – and that starts with us. We need to have control of our body, or emotions, and our minds in order for us have the control we need to have in our homes. I love this verse from Proverbs 25:28
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. (Proverbs 25:28 ESV)
Our homes are cities. We need to have self-control in our homes. When we think about walls, we think about restriction. Walls to a city kept people in. But, it also kept harm out. When we are living lives that have self-control, we are keeping things out of our lives- and our homes- that could attack us. Self-control limits us- and it limits those in our homes. However, those limits, those rules, protect us from keeping ourselves, and our homes, from attack. Self-Control is a defensive weapon that we can use to keep our homes safe.
What do we need self-control over in our homes? Well, this week, I think of the music we will play. In our home, we will choose to listen to praise music. We use self-control in our house by guarding the gates of our ears to not listen to a lot of music that talks brings us down. I have a teenager – who goes to public school – a lot of the music she hears from her friends can have curse words, or undertones of sex. I am trying to protect her from those things. So, our home has self-control by choosing not to listen to songs that have those undertones. It makes our home- and cars- a haven for her. It is protecting her from evil.
What does this have to do with gentleness? Well, I will be honest. I have been known to jam out to some music that was less then appropriate before- especially if I was working out. However, I saw that when I listened to certain kinds of music – my attitude changed. The same is true for certain kinds of television shows. I am not here to “preach” against music and tv – it isn’t all bad, and my kids don’t live in a bubble. However, we are selective, because we want to protect them. We have also noticed that when we are not selective, our kids are not gentle.
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1 ESV)
Gentleness is displayed most often by the words that come out of my mouth. I have to use an extreme (sometimes more than others!) amount of self-control in order to speak gentle words. As a mom, I am often reminding my children of Proverbs 15:1. To speak gently means we are controlling the other emotions that are going on inside of us. It doesn’t mean we are not feeling those emotions – just controlling them!
Our kids will often use the same tones, and even words we do. Most people have heard this famous saying
Kids rarely misquote. They usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said.
The same is true in our tones and our attitudes. If we have a certain attitude about a situation – they will often have the same attitude. So, we need to control our words, and our actions, and be sure that we are showing gentleness in both.
This week, as we light our candle- continue to pray for peace. As you do, play some music in your home that will bring about gentleness and self-control in your home. Need help? Check out this awesome playlist I have made for you! Don’t forget- there is printables of these verses from last week, and this week for you for FREE!
Now, time for a little Salt and Light Link Up!
Be the Salt & the Light to the world this week and share:
- Faith in Jesus – What inspired your faith walk with Jesus
- Marriage – What touched your heart for your spouse
- Singleness – What has inspired you to reach out to God
- Mothering – What encouraged you to be the best mom you can be this week
- Health – A new recipe that you hope to bless your family with, or health tip that will benefit your family
- Service – A story of service that touched you
- Finances – A tip that will serve your family well
- Homemaking – Inspiration to make your home a haven for your husband, kids, and guests
- Time – Share a story that opened your eyes to the use of time in our life
- Beauty – A reminder of what beauty really is in a world that tries so hard to
And of course, if you have written an encouraging post you would like to add to the link up, go ahead link up a second, personal post.
Bridget and I are picking our own favorites each week to feature, so make sure to check out both of our sites to see if you were featured. My favorite this week A Crumb From Jesus by Misty Leask at A Look At The Book. Misty shares about Mark 7:24-30 and who needs just a crumb from us – who can we minister to for just a second?
Your Chance to be Salt & Light
More specifically, how are we as blogging mommies, wives, women, being salt & light towards others online?
Here is your chance to generously sprinkle some salt and shine a light: a link up where you share a post that you enjoyed recently from someone else’s blog or website.
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