I am excited to be starting this series on relationships. I have tried to right it for three months- each month, something has happened, and God has switched up the topic. It is hard as a type A, OCD blogger when you feel the Holy Spirit pushing you in a different direction. However, I know the timing is of the Lord. I am excited to share with you our new series for the month of September:
This week, I have been reading in the book of Esther. For so many years, I have seen it as a book of courage, a book of strength – a book about a woman of God. While I do believe it is ALL those things, and many more, God has taken me to a unique spot in the book, using His highlighter to point out some areas in MY story that are not what they should be. You see, often, I like to find myself in Esther. I was so excited when Courtney, from Good Morning Girls/Women Living Well, announced this is where we would be starting. I felt like I KNEW wheat God was going to point out to me. That I had been “prepared for such a time as this”. That God was going to ask me to stand courageous. To fight for what is right – and to stand alone. Although I am sure those are things He will bring to light as I get into the chapters to come, that isn’t quite what God has shown me in Chapters 1-3. Instead, he has shown me my hidden pride.
Pride runs rapid in the first three chapters of Esther. From a drunken King, to a hostile and disrespectful wife, and then a bitter and nasty nobleman – pride is all over the first three chapters. I was often reminded of the verse in scripture
Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall. Proverbs 16:18
All three of these people have a fall to come in the book. Vashti loses her place as Queen. King Xerxes ends up having to admit wrong – more then once. Haman is killed because of his hate for the Jews. When we allow pride to take root in our life, and to consume us, we pick up a relationship that we should drop.
Satan wants us prideful. When we are battling with pride, our eyes are on ourselves, and not others- and not on God. When our relationship with God isn’t right – our relationship with others isn’t right. When our relationships with our spouse and our kids are not right – it is probably a good sign that there is something out of place in our relationship with God.
In life, humility is hard. Staying low so that God can be exalted is hard. We live in a fallen world- and pride is just easier. Often, when we are struggling with pride, we are looking at ourselves with disillusioned eyes. We lie to ourseleves- and even others. This won’t build any relationship – it will only destroy.
How then, can we keep pride at bay.
- Get low -Pride is often defined as putting oneself above that of another. So, we must get low. I find the best way to do this is to get on my knees in surrender and prayer. Literally – on my knees. Sometimes, face down on the ground. Keeping at attitude of prayer will help us keep our relationship with God right and to look at ourseleves for who we are- the child of the King.
- Use God’s Word- God exalts His Word- so when your pride is wanting to exalt itself, combat it with the very Words of God. Exalt it over yourself.
- Serve Others- I often find that when I am struggling with pride, if I will give myself to serving someone else (especially my kids- OH how humble it makes you to serve someone that you deem “smaller” than you!) that it helps put things into perspective. I am often reminded of the verse “The last shall be first, and the first shall be last.
The hardest relationships we struggle with pride in are those that are closest to us. This month, we are going to be talking about our relationships. To our husbands, children, friends. We will talk about the importance of accountability. We will also talk about the importance of being a mentor and being mentored. Let’s guard our relationships and season them with grace instead of pride.
Worshiping With My Life,