Well, here we are. The end of something good. I have been so blessed to walk through this book club alongside Courtney, from Women Living Well, as we have talked about living well as the women God has called us to be. Like so many other things in scripture, I believe God has given us the most beautiful example of scripture of living well as a woman, and that is in the example of the Proverbs 31 woman.
So many people look at this woman, and think she is unattainable. No one can be all these things. I think these are things we can ascribe to – and I think she is attainable. I don’t believe the Lord gives us examples He doesn’t want us to try to obtain. Sanctification is a lifelong process, and maybe becoming this woman is part of that life long process. Nonetheless, I think she is a beautiful example and reminder of all that God desires His precious daughters to be.
Since I was 16, I have had the privilege of wearing a ruby on my wedding finger. My dad gave me my purity ring when I was 16 years old, and it had a heart-shaped ruby. I am sure the ruby wasn’t real, but the meaning behind it stood loudly in my life. He told me he didn’t just want me to wait for marriage for intimacy, he wanted me to strive to be this virtuous woman. I remember thinking that it was so cool that my dad cared about me so much to find value in my character.
Fast forward over ten years later, and I was 28 and still single. Still saving myself for marriage. Still striving to become that virtuous woman. It was then that I met my sweet, future husband. As the time went on, and we started talking about getting married, I made a side comment that as much as I was looking forward to my diamond and my engagement ring, I thought I was really going to miss my ruby. I liked the daily reminder that it was. Well, it was noted by my husband to be, and when he bought my engagement ring, he created one that would hold the diamond, representing his love for me, and two rubies, for each of the men in my life that desired me to continue to serve Jesus and be the virtuous woman he created me to be. My heart still smiles when I remember seeing the perfect engagement ring for me.
I will admit. I am far from this woman. Yet I have used the five steps to eagerness that Courtney has talked about, applied to my own life, and feel like each day, God is molding me more like Christ, and that is what the Virtuous Woman is – a woman striving to be like Christ.
1. Pray – Oh sweet sisters, a woman who is striving for this kind of life must pray. This kind of woman isn’t popular in society – and not even in the church. She is a servant. She looks well to her home, her husband, and those around her. She is busy- about the right things. We must pray that God would be the one doing the work in us, and not us ourselves.We need to keep this intimate connection with the Lord. Ask God to make this attitude yours- and to change your desire to be like the one mentioned in this passage.
2. Whatever God gives you to do – do it for Him, and for His glory! That will help keep your attitude in check!
3. Change your perspective. Remember why you are doing what you do. Keep it in the eyes of the eternal. You are serving, feeding, clothing, and changing the attitude of your home, to prepare the next generation of believers! You are using your home as a tool for ministry. You are serving the ONE, TRUE KING!
4. Research and Find Inspiration. Study God’s Word (especially other women of the Bible). REad good books – and blogs (may I suggest: Women Living Well, Time Warp Wife, The Better Mom, Young Wifes Guide and Marriage, Motherhood, and Missions to name a few of my personal favorites – oh and Women of Worship 😉 Don’t just read though! Choose a couple of things and APPLY them! Knowledge is useless unless you apply it!
5. Rest. Yes, sweet friend, you need rest. We are human. We are not capable to go full speed all the time. Take time to rest and recharge. By yourself, with your hubby, and most importantly, with the Lord!
When we lives like this, we are said to be of great value- the Bible talks about our price being above rubies. That is why my rubies in my ring have always been so special to me. I look at those precious gems, and remember how much my daddy, my husband, and most importantly, my King, want me to live a life that is priceless. It will touch eternity.
In all these areas that we have talked about, we need to live well. We need to live lives that honor and glorify Jesus. It isn’t cookie cutter for everyone – each of us have a different way of doing it! However, no matter how we do it, as long as we are doing it the way the Lord directs us, we are leading lives that are worshiping Him.
Worshiping With Our Lives,