I have been writing about marriage a lot. I believe Satan has been attacking marriage because it is there that he feels like he can take a stab at God’s Glory. Through last week’s study over at Good Morning Girls we have focused on being intentional on our marriages. Let’s take a look at the verses.
Monday and Tuesday, we started at the beginning. From the very beginning of man kind, God knew that the man was going to need a helper. Man was left alone – and had a big task – to tend the place God had left him, and to create more worshipers. Neither task could be done by man alone. So, God put Adam to sleep, and took a rib from his side. I have heard this quote a few times, as well as at my wedding, and I find it to be a beautiful illustration of God’s purpose for women:
What a beautiful picture of marriage. We were not created from a bone in Adam’s foot- we are not to be lorded over. I am a believer in submission to our husbands (and we will talk about that later on in this post – and you can find more about my thoughts on my site), however, that submission is not a doormat submission. It is a submission out of love and respect- by both parties. My husband loves and respects me, as a daughter of the King, and as the woman he cherishes. Because of this, my husband loves me right- with a sacrificial love that mirrors Christ. I was also not created from his head- to lord and control him. No, I was created from his rib, the protector of his heart. I find that it is my job to protect my husbands heart. I am to help him complete the mission that God has placed IN his heart. There are so many different ways we can be a help to our husbands- and there is no cookie cutter way to do that! Yet, we see what happens when we get things out-of-order. Satan has a way into our marriage. He uses the wife to control the husband. He follows her lead. Things take a down hill spin. What I am not saying- and you should not read – is that suggestions by a wife lead to sin. That is not true. What I am saying is that I am not to control my husband. Also, that I have an important role as his wife to help lead him in the right ways. As women, we have a lot of power in our homes. We can either encourage our husband to do right, or to do wrong. So, we need to encourage them to walk in the ways of the Lord.
On Wednesday, we turned our eyes to the book of Ephesians, where we get a lot of instruction for our marriages. Again, we see that husbands are to be the head of the home. There is a submission that takes places. I want to start with saying that we need to be submitting to the Lord- and so do our husbands. However, I believe we need to obey the Lord- even if our husbands are not. This does not mean I think any woman should be a doormat, or stay in a relationship that is causing her harm. Oh sweet lady, I hear you. Years before I married my husband, I was in an abusive relationship. My boyfriend thought I should do as he said, and he spoke to me in ways a woman should not be spoken to. My heart resonates with you. He was not my husband, but he wanted control in the relationship. My opinion did not matter. However, in my marriage, my husband submits to the Lord – so I find safety in submitting to him. I submit to God in this area of my life. My husband submits, and loves me, like Christ loves the church. It is a sacrificial love. My husbands goal is to be able to give account before Christ for the way our house was. He wants to present me beautiful to Chirst- and to be able to hear “Well done ” about the way he treated God’s daughter. Just because this opinion is not popular does not mean we should disregard it. My husband is the spiritual head of our family. A wise and Christ-honoring husband is not going to take this passage out of context, or take advantage of his leadership role. Honestly, it humbles my husband. We seek to maintain unity in our marriage. This requires communication. Marriage is a beautiful picture of the relationship between Christ and His bride, the church.
I want to encourage you wives again- notice in this passage that Paul speaks more to the husband how to LOVE his wife then to the wife on submission. If your husband is treating you like the passage goes on to talk about – 1)sacrificing all for you, 2) your well-being will be his primary focus, and 2) he cares for you as he cares for himself – then submission is not a scary thing that needs to be feared! I find so much peace in this, and am so thankful for a husband that lovingly leads me like Christ. As we both follow Christ, this picture comes out to be a beautiful one that our children can follow.
Thursday and Friday were beautiful passages about women and the attributes and character qualities a wife should possess. We need women like Titus 2 to be able to hold us accountable and to teach us God’s word. We need to BE this kind of woman in other ladies life. We are all an “older woman” to someone – and we are all younger to someone too! Be sure that you have relationships like this in your life.
Here are the rest of my thoughts on this weeks passage.
As we go this week, let’s continue to be intentional about our marriages. They bring God so much glory. Let them be a way we worship our King.
Worshiping with my Life,